Celebrating pre wedding events like Mehndi and Sangeet on a large and grand scale has become a fashion currently. These events are more an ice breaker types where relatives and friends from both sides meet, interact and get to know each other.
Pre- wedding Sangeet involves a great deal of music, dance and lot of fun in general. It is more as an occasion to celebrate the upcoming wedding by both families pitching in to create an atmosphere of joy and celebration.
The atmosphere is light and jovial. The spirit of the occasion catches every one’s mood and there is fun and frolic all around. It is an occasion to destress from all the tension of running around and getting all things set for the wedding. Also in some cases relatives arrive a day or two earlier and the hosts prefer to keep them all entertained at a single venue.
If the couple are a fun loving type with a huge gang of friends then they normally opt for a dance floor and a DJ to take things forward. We also arrange for dances to be choreographed for the relatives and friends who want to throw surprises for the couple.
If the Sangeeth is more of family with a shy couple to boot then a lively MC who can draw people out of their shells and create an atmosphere of ease and comfort is our connecting point
Event Management, fun as it may seem from the outside involves a lot of preparation in terms of understanding the various traditions of the different religions and communities spread across India. Event planning as the term denotes is simply making available all the things required for the conduct of a function well before time and in the required manner.
The term ‘Nalangu’ is used in different connotations during weddings across various communities in the South of India. As wedding event managers it is important for us to have a good understanding of the various rituals and traditions followed by each community to be able to make the necessary arrangements.
In some communities the term ‘Nalangu’ refers to the ceremony that is held on the evening prior to the actual wedding. Here the bride is bedecked and seated and all the Sumangalis in the family apply sandal paste to her face, hands and legs. Kumkum is then applied on the forehead. Rose water and flowers are then sprinkled over her head as a form of blessing. Aarathi is then performed to end the ritual.
This is considered by some as a cleansing as well as a beautification ceremony of the bride. Whatever be the actual significance the presence of aromatic elements like sandal paste, flowers , rose water etc lends a harmonious and auspicious note as a precursor to the wedding.
In Tamil Brahmin weddings ‘Nalangu’ refers to the fun filled game session that comes immediately after the wedding is over. It is looked forward to as an opportunity for both families to interact in a relaxed manner sharing a sense of bonhomie and camaraderie after the hectic wedding preparations. A lot of music and cheer fills the air with both parties taking sides in supporting the bride and groom in the course of the small games that are conducted.
A few decades ago this ritual was mostly skipped as most felt it was unnecessary and not suitable to current day scenario. But in recent times the young couples evince great interest in the conduct of this wedding ritual. As event managers we are often asked to bring in innovative games to make it a participative ritual.
The bride and groom are seated opposite each other on a mat on the floor and the session starts with a small ‘make – up’ session where the couple have to apply sandal paste, kumkum, powder and other beautifying elements on each other. This is followed by rolling of the coconut across the floor to each other which is followed by a tug – of – war contest to see who is stronger of the two in retrieving the coconut, exchange of rice & dal, and breaking of the appalams to the accompaniment of loud cheers and shouts.
In some sects this tradition is a part of the wedding function and is therefore not taken out as a separate event.
These games were of significance in olden days where at times the bride and groom were not given an opportunity to meet each other before the wedding. Such games helped them tide over their inhibitions and facilitated physical proximity. It is also said that when child marriages were the order of the day in yester years such games were conducted to entertain the child bride & groom. Now it is more of a fun filled entertainment session.
The check list of documents / items required for Marriage Registration
( Hindu / Muslim / Christian )
1. Age Proof For Both (the bride & groom) – Any one of the following:
2. Birth Certificate
4. School leaving certificate or Mark Sheet
5. Address Proof For Both – Any one of the following: Passport/Ration Card/Voter ID
Apart from these you will need:
i] The Wedding Invite
ii]Passport size color photo – 4 copies each
iii] Three Witnesses – Better if they carry their Ids as well as Passport Size Photographs with them as well.
If both the bride and the groom are not residents of the city where they are getting married or if one of then is a foreign citizen, then the wedding venue becomes very important.
The wedding can be registered under the Special Marriage Act.
One has to check with the concerned registrar office closest to the wedding venue one month ahead of the wedding date to finalize the details.
Notice of the intended marriage has to be given.
You will have to submit an application form and visit the office on the specified date.
If no objection for the marriage is received within 30 days from the notice, marriage will be registered.
Photostat copies of all documents is a must.
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